遇上你，只是個幸運的偶然嗎？還是一種命定的安排？
你說，如果我們真的有緣，我們將會再一次遇見。

命運會送出徵兆，人做出決定，如何去解讀才是關鍵。

「我不是對每個女生都是如此，但是我想要妳的電話號碼，以防萬一」
「萬一什麼？」
「萬一我們不能再遇見的話」
「如果我們有緣再遇見，就會再相遇囉」你笑著對我說。
「我總不能度過了一段難忘的時光，然後把一切都交給命運吧」
「我想，現在的時候還不對」你笑著說
「喔~~歐，抱歉，我沒帶錶。」
「我不是這個意思，嗯，我是說…」

「就這樣嗎？」
我和她的相遇就只是這樣子而已嗎？

之後的幾年裡，我常常這樣幻想著，當我們重逢的時候，或許你已經是香奈兒的設計師、上了時代雜誌的封面，而我，卻還停留在妳給我的那張暱稱字條旁邊。
那段記憶，很短暫、很片段。

「上帝關上門時，必將開一扇窗。」

我要結婚了，不知道你是不是也會這樣，當我抱著一個人的時候，心理想的卻是另外一個人；當我說我愛她的時候，身邊的人、事、物卻一直提醒著我妳的存在。
手上的銅板，或許曾經在妳的手上。
走上捷運的電扶梯，或許是妳曾經站過的地方。

我站在第一次遇見妳的地方，在她忙著挑選婚紗的時候。
她說她這一生就是為了這一天，連音樂也是唸大學的時候就選好了。
她忙著邀請朋友、忙著彩排。
我呢？我究竟是為了什麼而結婚的？不，應該說
我是真的想和她結婚嗎？

她很好，我也愛她。

她為了我留了長髮，即使夏天她吵著說天氣很熱。
她為了我去學義大利菜，只因為我說過一次我想吃義大利麵。
她為了我穿上了裙子，只因為我曾經在路邊一直看著那件裙子。

還是，我只是想繼承她家的事業？

看她入睡，躺在我的身邊。
我輕撫著她烏黑的秀髮，劃過她迷人的臉頰。

我是害怕結婚？還是我不應該和她結婚？

如果是這樣，我該怎麼開口？
尤其是當我看見她那貼在我們房間裡上了色的佈置設計圖時

當妳的未婚夫送妳戒指時
當妳收下時
有像我一樣的這種疑問嗎

不，我不希望妳結婚

我的害怕
隨著她急迫熱切的期待而膨脹
失控

為什麼我不敢追求近在眼前的幸福
是因為這一切來的太容易嗎
還是因為我還惦記著妳

我不知道

我只知道這一刻
我是自私的
我想將妳佔為己有

抱歉
我是個凡人
唯有到了失去 才會懂得珍惜

我祈求命運 在
無法預知的重逢裡

因為 再也沒有
再也沒有 沒有
任何時刻

能這般美麗 在那相遇瞬間的永恆裡

Steps

1. Do not expect anyone to be responsible for your happiness. Accept yourself. Respect yourself. Love yourself. Take good care of yourself. If you really want, you CAN always find something to do that makes you feel good about yourself right now. Love yourself, so pursue your true needs. Light up your true desires. Ask yourself why you didn't? Too often relationships fail because someone is unhappy and blames their partner for making them that way. Your life is ONLY under your control. Keep reminding yourself you are GOOD ENOUGH to have a happy life and a healthy relationship. Make yourself happy, and then share with one another.
2. Make and keep clear agreements. Respect the difference between yourself and your partner. Don't expect he or she agrees with you on everything. Reach mutual agreement or plan, and then commit to it. Leave the partner if you can't reach any agreement or you find he or she always makes excuses for breaking the agreement or plan. If you say you're going to meet your partner for lunch at noon, be on time, or call if you're going to be late. If you agree to have a monogamous relationship, keep that agreement and/or tell the truth about any feelings you're having about someone else before you act on them. Keeping agreements shows respect for yourself and your partner, as well as creating a sense of trust and safety.
3. Use communication to establish a common ground to understand different points of view and to create a mutual, collaborative agreement or plan. You can either choose to be right, or you can have a successful relationship. You can't always have both. Most people argue to be "right" about something. They say. "If you loved me, you would..." and argue to hear the other say, "Okay, you're right." If you are generally more interested in being right, this approach will not create a healthy relationship. Having a healthy relationship means that you have your experience, and your partner has his or her experience, and you learn to love and share and learn from those experiences. If you can't reach any mutual agreement, that doesn't mean either of you is wrong or bad, it only means you don't suit each other.
4. Approach your relationship as a learning experience. Each one has important information for you to learn. For example, do you often feel 'bossed' around in your relationship, or do you feel powerless? When a relationship is not working, there is usually a familiar way that we feel while in it. We are attracted to the partner with whom we can learn the most, and sometimes the lesson is to let go of a relationship that no longer serves us. A truly healthy relationship will consist of both partners who are interested in learning and expanding a relationship so that it continues to improve.
5. Tell the unarguable truth. Be truthful to yourself and your partner if you want true love. Many people are taught to lie to protect someone's feelings, either their own or those of their partner. Lies create disconnection between you and your relationship, even if your partner never finds out about it. The unarguable truth is about your true feelings; your partner can argue about anything that happens outside of you, but he or she cannot rationally deny your feelings. Here are some examples: "I felt scared when I saw you talking to him at the party," "I feel angry when you hang up on me," and "I felt sad when you walked out during our fight and didn't want to be around me."
6. Do not do anything for your partner if it comes with an expectation of reciprocation. The things you do for your partner must always be done because you chose to do them and you wanted to do them. Do not hold your “good deeds” over their head at a later time. Keeping score in a relationship will never work: a person is less likely to notice and value all the contributions of their partner as much as their own.
7. Forgive one another. Forgiveness is a decision of letting go the past and focusing on the present. It's about taking control of your current situation. Talk about the issue and try to reach a mutual agreement on how to handle the situation in the future and then commit to it. If you can't reach an agreement, it's a bad sign. If you learn from the past and do not repeat the same pattern, it's a good sign. It's the only way to prevent yourself from more disappointment, anger or resentment. Respect your partner, when your partner tells you to leave them alone, do give him or her the time and space.
8. Review your expectations.
9. Be Responsible. Here's a new definition: Responsible means that you have the ability to respond. Respond to the real problem, to your true needs. It does not mean you are to blame. There is tremendous power in claiming your creation. If you've been snippy to your partner, own up to it, and get curious about why you are jealous and how you might do it differently next time. If you are unhappy in your relationship, get curious about why this situation seems similar to others from your past, and how you might create a better relationship for yourself rather than dwell in anger or resentment or try to change your partner instead.
10. Appreciate yourself and your partner.
11. Admit your mistakes and say sorry.

• Keep your expectations about the relationship realistic. Marriage should not be on your mind if you've been dating for a week, for example. Nor should you think that the relationship is going to solve all of your problems, or that you'll never be lonely again, or anything like that. Relationships can be wonderful things, but be realistic about them. Just as one can feel lonely in a crowd, one can also feel lonely occasionally when in a relationship - that doesn't mean the relationship is bad, it only means you're feeling a little down. Don't ascribe too much importance to it unless these feelings linger and begin to dominate your days and nights. If this happens, seek help; you may be spiralling into a depression.
• Do not assume that any one relationship will be perfect. It is human to experience disagreements and emotional pain. Working past these issues may be an ongoing struggle.

How to Make a Long Distance Relationship Work

Tips

• A long distance relationship is no different from a proximal relationship in that they both require a great deal of work, excellent communication, patience, sacrifice and understanding. But you will have to work extra hard to maintain the communication and to stay focused enough to not let your daily life interfere with your desire to be with the other person. Don't forget them or you can forget the relationship and it will all be over.
• One of the hardest parts of a long distance relationship is connecting when one person gets busier than the other. If this happens in a relationship it is important to maintain communication. If you are the busy person, try to warn your partner ahead of time that you will be working many hours and may have limited time. If you are the not-as-busy person, take advantage of the time by picking up a new hobby, getting in shape, reading a new book, etc. Flexibility is very important.
• Buy a game that you can play together over the internet, such as a MMORPG (massively multi-player online role playing game). You will be able to chat while playing and it will give a greater feeling of togetherness.
• Buy a webcam so you can chat face to face and see each other, so when you meet you will remember what they look like.
• Consider the fact that living far apart gives you both a chance to grow as individuals. Some couples break up to "find themselves", but in a long distance relationship you both have enough space to do your own things and still have a connection.